Avoided Words: The Hidden Reason You’re Not Fluent

You know more English than you speak.
But you’re not using it.

That’s not because you’re lazy.
Not because you’re unmotivated.
It’s because you’ve built a little safety zone around certain words — and you stay there.

Let’s talk about those words.
The ones you always say: good, bad, nice, a lot, okay.
And the ones you always avoid: overwhelming, exhilarating, complicated, regret, eventually.

🎭 You’re Not Speaking with Your Full Vocabulary

You’re speaking with your safe words.

It happens in class.
It happens in exams.
It happens even when you’re excited about something.

You wanted to say:

“The film was breathtaking.”
But you said:
“It was very nice.”

Why?
Because “breathtaking” felt risky. Fancy.
And you weren’t sure if you could pull it off.

It’s not that you didn’t feel it.
It’s that you didn’t trust your English enough to show what you felt.

And this, right here, is the real problem.
Not grammar. Not accent. Not vocabulary tests.
But fear.

🔒 What You Avoid = Who You Could Be

Let’s name them:

  • 🚫 Exhilarating
  • 🚫 Terrified
  • 🚫 Eventually
  • 🚫 Regret
  • 🚫 Complicated

You’ve seen these words. You understand them.
But you rarely use them.
Because deep down, you’re worried you’ll mess it up.

But here’s the truth: These words are your real English level.
You just haven’t claimed them yet.

💬 What To Do Instead

Language isn’t a performance.
It’s a confession.
If you want to speak with more power — don’t aim for perfection.

Instead:

✅ Pause.
✅ Feel the exact emotion.
✅ Dare to say the real word — even if you stutter.

Fluency doesn’t come from saying it right.
It comes from saying it real.

🧠 Try This in Your Head

❌ Standard Reply:
A: “How was the movie?”
B: “It was nice.”

✅ Real English:
A: “How was the movie?”
B: “Honestly… it was overwhelming. But in a good way.”

That moment — the pause, the search for a better word, the risk of sounding too emotional — that is where growth lives.


You’re not bad at English.
You’re just hiding the best parts of it.

The words you avoid are the words that would set you free.

Speak like you mean it.
Speak like you feel it.

That’s how fluency grows.